Tell me something: have you ever felt like this, too?
Like you’ve been left out by modern mom culture.
Like there’s something about your parenting priorities that doesn’t fit in, goes against the flow, and frankly, draws flak from your associates.
Whether that’s the moms in your church group, your relatives, or the other homeschoolers you met at the park the other day.
In fact, you’re doing something just to fit in – when you don’t even want to.
So let’s dive in to what’s causing that uncomfortableness, and what you can do differently to get rid of it.
(And no, it’s not you who needs to change here.)
Where’s the don’t-fit-in rub?
All right, brainstorming time: what is it? What’s bringing up those “boy, I just don’t fit in” feelings?
- Mom-and-baby class?
- Park days?
- Homeschool co-ops?
- Playdates with that family you don’t really like?
- Music lessons?
How ‘bout we be ourselves and stop doing that thing, mmkay? You don’t need to prove anything to anyone.
Let me say that again. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone.
You’re your kids’ mom.
What you say goes.
That’s a good enough reason.
(And if you’re introverted, and the reason is, “That’s too much hassle/noise/time away from the house,” high five!)
So if you need a little help as an introverted work-from-home mom, I’d love to brainstorm with and for you! And I do it every week, multiple times a week, inside of #Momlife Made Easy.
Send me your questions, concerns, and introverted what-if’s, and get personalized coaching, just for you! It’s all right here, because introverted moms deserve customized help that’s tailored to YOU.
Don’t do something just to fit in when you don’t even like it.
Stop doing the extras that don’t matter
See if you can stop doing whatever your always-feel-left-out thing is. Or at least plan to extricate yourself from it by next month.
Once you stop living for other people – letting them control your life – it gets a lot easier.
And we want motherhood to be easier, right?
And remember, you have an additional calling on your life.
You’re a business-mom, and that means one more thing (a very important thing!) got added to your plate.
THEY’RE not juggling client projects, content creation, sales pages, and the like while stirring supper and holding babies – YOU are.
So that gives you an extra filter to weigh what your priorities are.
You don’t have time to do everything “extra” they think you should – and it’s time you stopped telling yourself you had to cram it all in anyway.
That’s not doing yourself any favors.
It’s not doing your business any favors.
Heck, it’s not doing your family any favors!
Quit the unnecessary for your family, hone in on your purpose, and start living life by design, not default.
Forget what they say; they don’t have your calling.
And when you’ve got a calling, you’ve also got a responsibility to live up to it.
Delete the should’s from your calendar
So. What’s the thing that’s only on your list because you think you “should” do it?
It’s time to own up to it, delete it, and do something else with your life. (Guilt free.)
Even if that means sitting at home, not going out anywhere.
Because you deserve to live by intention, not shoulds.
And that’s exactly what’s going to happen when you start quitting things.
Making room for what matters.
Pray over it, and make your choice to be different.
Because that’s what He’s called you to, regardless of feelings. Yourself or others.
You get to live this life following the purpose He set for you, leading the family He gave you, nurturing the talents He gifted you.
Doesn’t that sound wonderful? Way more important, eternally speaking, than whether or not the moms at church like you or make room for your homeschooling or business scheduling quirks.
So step out in what He has called you to do, and let their opinions fall by the wayside.
He expects nothing less. (And nothing more.)
You’ve got this.
