How many times have you made a change in your life that your husband didn’t like?
A lot, right?
We can’t pretend this isn’t here when I’m asking you to make *major* life changes to your #momlife, your workload, and the way you involve your kids. I would be doing you a disservice to ignore it.
So today, let’s talk about dealing with frustration from your husband as you move through your own life change.
Of course this came up with a client of mine, and it really threw her off stride. She’s there making amazing progress, finally getting the hang of things, tweaking this and that about her schedule, seeing the fruit of it in her relationship with her kids, and here all of a sudden her husband goes off on her about totally unrelated stuff and she can’t seem to do anything right! What gives?
What I told her is this: your husband is used to the way things are, and he’s either going to react in one of two ways. Either he’ll just explode all over you and take his frustration out on you – because the woman he married is changing (yes, even if it’s for the better) – or he’ll decide *he* can make changes too, and then you’ll have your own adjustments to make!
So I know this is really annoying (and sometimes scary, depending on the strength of your husband’s reaction) to walk through. “Wait a minute – I’m slowing down our lives! I’m making things better! I’m stepping more fully into myself! What are you doing yelling at me over this?!”
But you have to remember that your husband is on his *own* self-development journey. And if he’s not very far down that road, he’ll react from insecurity rather than cheerleading as you start to improve things in your day-to-day calendar.
It’s unfair to have to process his feelings dumping onto you as *well* as your own emotion-laded transformation, but sometimes that’s just the way it is.
You making a difference in your kids’ lives is still worth it.
You making a difference in your *own* life is still worth it.
So go out there with renewed strength to face the bumps ahead, and remember, you’re on the right track.
You’re just going over a few potholes right now. It’s going to be okay.
You’ve got this. Just keep going.
