You guys have all heard the definition of insanity attributed to Einstein, right?
You know, the one that goes like this: “The definition of insanity is doing things the same way and expecting a different outcome.”
That one.
So, where are you doing that in your own life, right now?
Going about your week, or day, or year in the exact same way – and still expecting that one day the magic will strike, and everything will work again?
You see, here’s the key.
You have to actually get up and do something different.
Let’s see how this works….
Do something different
The definition of insanity is doing things the same way and expecting a different outcome. Right?
So where are you doing that in your #momlife? Is it the….
- Meal prepping?
- Meal planning?
- Naptime expectations?
- Dinner table behavior rules?
What’s not working for you right now?
I don’t care if it worked splendidly just 2 months ago. We need to know if it’s helping you now.
(‘Scuse the tough love there….)
Hit the delete button
Okay, then. You know what’s not working.
In fact, you’re itching to get this fixed so you can get on with your too-busy life….
Not so fast.
If life by itself is too hard, something needs to get deleted. Period, end of story.
I don’t care what the Instagram influencers say. I don’t care what the Pinterest mommies tell you.
I only want you to succeed.
Whatever that takes, however that means.
If life is too hard, something needs to get deleted. End of story.
It’s time to admit that #momlife is too much. That right now, you can’t handle cloth diapering, organic baby-food-making, baby wearing, respectful parenting, keeping the floors clean around there, three-times-a-day from-scratch cooking, meeting up with all your communities, keeping up with the latest memes, looking great every day no matter what, toning that muscle, reading to your kids 30 minutes apiece, checking in on the homework, practicing meditation for 20 minutes – oh, and gardening while you’re at it.
(Did I miss something? Probably….)
Give yourself a break.
You’re not going to veer into neglectful parenting just because you bought baby food or dried those five loads in the dryer instead of using a clothesline, for heaven’s sake.
You need to prioritize what’s truly important. If you have finite energy (and you do), what’s top of the list?
Everything else needs to go.
Delete that recurring appointment from your calendar. Make your excuses to the committee meeting or church group.
They’re all perfectly great things; you just can’t handle them right now.
Drop the guilt and move on to something better: your best life.
Make some white space
Finally, I want you to add back in something – white space.
Pruning your life to make space will always yield results.
It may grant you that necessary margin to just breathe. Or it may turn up more rocks that need to be dealt with.
But whatever the result, it’s important to your overall success.
You need quiet. There’s no getting away from it.
How about a journaling practice? A 5-minute mediation app every evening? A solo walk daily, no kids permitted?
Where can you fit in (scratch that, prioritize) some alone time?
Time by yourself, in sweet peace and quiet, to take a deep breath. Let the worries of the day flow over you. Give your brain time to bubble up solutions.
That’s what you need to really succeed in life. #Momlife, especially.
And I want you to find it.
This is why you’ve got to cut, chop, prune, or edit your life if you’re ever going to see progress.
(And do the same to your calendar.)
Because going from here, life right now, to there? (AKA, your dream life.)
It’s going to take change.
No more insanity for you, my mom friend.
It’s time to press delete.
Where do you need to try something different today?
