So what happens when you’re no longer doing the cooking and cleaning? Or at least the vast majority of it?
Isn’t that what your dream is as a stay-at-home mom?
Or are you actually getting cold feet at the idea of your primary function not being cleaning and cooking anymore?
If that’s you, we need to talk. Like now.
Because seriously, there’s no need for all the mom-role angst and existential cleaning crisis.
You don’t even need to worry about where you’re going to find the money to pay someone else to do your housework for you.
Because you know what? It’s not “your” housework.
It’s the family’s housework. And it doesn’t really matter whether it’s you taking out the trash, or your husband, or your 9-year-old boy, or the housekeeper.
Really.
And if you’re afraid of this development, I want to ask you whether you’d feel the same level of “my role’s being taken away!” if it was your husband doing two-thirds of the cooking because that’s always been his hobby.
Or your daughter suddenly evincing a desire to bake more and handling all your breads and desserts for you.
Would you tell them that no, they weren’t allowed? That no matter *who* had joy in this kitchen endeavor, it was *your* job to grit your teeth and struggle through it?
Before you knee jerk me a “no,” just stop and think a bit.
*Are* you actually doing that by refusing to outsource dishes to your kids?
- Cleaning showers to your son?
- Basic veggie food prepping to your daughters?
- Letting your husband take the teacher’s guide and check the answers for your kids’ math homework before you take over as tutor?
Have you pinned your identity as a mom on being the one doing this chore?
I’m serious. Every time you *refuse* to hand off this chore – doesn’t matter what it is – because *you* have pinned your identity as a mom on being the one doing it, *stop*.
You need to *stop*. Because in the overall scheme of things, it truly doesn’t matter if your husband changes the baby’s diaper or you do. If he mops the floors or you do. If your son slices the homemade bread or you do.
Those were just tasks that needed to be done for the family. And sometimes, it’s in *their* best interests to know how to do them, or it’s in *your* best interests to have more stuff off your plate.
Because you’re needed on other things. The “they can’t possibly do this for me” things.
- Your son can’t run your marketing campaign for you.
- Your daughter can’t be in your DMs for you.
- Your husband is not putting on makeup and heading out to do reels for you.
*You* are the one doing those things. But *they* can bake the bread or slice the bread or assemble the sandwiches for tomorrow’s lunch.
Are you getting the picture here?
It’s. Okay.
Okay that you’re not doing it all, okay that you’re not even doing most of it, okay that someone else is helping you with the *homemaking* part of your task load.
You’re allowed.
And if there’s one thing you need to hear from me today, it’s that permission-giving response of “you get to do this.” Outsource this. Delegate that. No, you don’t have to be the only one to do this.
So if you’re afraid of upleveling your housework chores, don’t be – a whole *world* of business creativity and mom time freedom and life skills for others and sharing the load experience awaits.
You know you want this.
Let yourself have it.
All you have to do is delegate some chores, and you’ve got this.
That’s what matters.
