You think balance is about sitting down on the floor with your kids and skipping out on the housework.
Or whisking them away to the park and ignoring the undone laundry.
But actually? That’s a lie from the “women can’t have it all” crowd – and they’ve skewed their sample size to “prove” it.
What about this version of “balance”??
She gives herself 20 minutes to do house pickup and start the steak thawing for supper, and THEN she plays mech warriors with the boys.
(Because she knows even the most zen mama is going to get distracted by shoes all over the floor and nothing prepped for supper.)
And for the life of me, I CANNOT focus on “how was your day” conversation around the dinner table if the kitchen counter’s a mess and I could just FIX it all by putting things away for a few minutes.
So I’ve learned that it’s better to get that done BEFORE supper, so I can actually SIT in my chair without getting up.
So I better allow for some tidy-up time before “sit down for family supper” time – because that’s what’s personalized to ME.
And when you’re in my “20 hours a week freed up” program, I’m going to run that same personalization process for YOU.
Because balance NEVER requires getting disciplined enough to tune out undone high priority work, so you can sit on the floor and play lego Star Wars with your kids, to call yourself a present mom.
‘Cause your brain will never let you fully enter the moment and be present with your TIE-fighter-flying boys….
IF you haven’t dealt with the real root of that mom guilt.
Which is often called a niggling mama-or-entrepreneurial to-do list. (Because you’ve still got urgency attached to something – okay, multiple somethings – on there.)
But being a zen-level ignore-er of your to-do list was never part of the “good mom” requirement.
All YOU need to do is knock out that “reschedule ortho appointment” to-do (and make sure there’s something soft for supper that day!), so you can show up calm and fully present for your daughter’s weekly “Starbucks with mom” date.
Instead of listening with half an ear to what’s going on with her friends at school, ‘cause you’re trying to work out what afternoons you’re available to run her to the orthodontist with the other half of your brain.
That’s not presence; that’s distracted parenting.
So why don’t you make a little space for real life, build in 10-15 minutes of cushion for #momlife pop-ups before every “quality time with kids” outing, and embrace the duality of being a highly ambitious WFH business owner who’s also a super tuned-in mom??
Because the more you let your high achiever self be seen and heard, the less you’ll be frustrated by all the demands of mom life.
And I’m not sacrificing EITHER of my roles to keep the “can’t have both” people happy.
(Neither are you.)
And it’s time for you to get the right answers (both for the kid side of your life AND your “what’s next” project list).
DM me when you’re ready for the how.
