As long as you’re afraid that the pain of fixing this, getting yourself the solution, is going to be worse than the pain of living with this daily annoyance….
….You’re not gonna make a change.
So what I want you to explore today is why.
- WHY are you feeling like this?
- What’s this slightly uncomfortable, not quite fitting anymore in my mom life feeling coming from?
Journal that out – it should only take you a few minutes.
Like me – I was wondering why my Fridays felt so chaotic, and then realized I was putting a bunch of “for fun” things on a workday just because I thought everyone *should*.
*Not* because I was actually out of energy and wanting to take a biz half day. Okay, good to know….
Then, I want you to explore what’s the resistance, the block, to you fixing that for yourself. Getting that new life.
What are you afraid of, why does it sound so scary, to do something different here?
Get it all out. Every last worry, what if, and brain freak out. Even if it sounds silly. ‘Cause if you write it down, and name it, its power goes away.
Back to my example: I was afraid I’d offend the other person by asking to move our get-together to the weekend. (So that my work days could be uniform and consistent, and I’d feel like I got more work done.)
Next. So here’s what we’re going to do: For every fear you wrote down, decide:
- Is this true?
- Is this what’s guaranteed to happen? (Probably not. Spoiler alert.)
- And what would you actually do if there was a tiny bit of resistance to your new way of thinking/acting/scheduling/working? (Just pre-plan a 5-second response here.)
Me? I realized I was *more* afraid of offending her by moving our temporary setup than I was willing to actually *do* something about my own resentment. Until, of course, I saw that was what I was doing, and what tradeoff I was making!
But did I *really* think she’d be mad at me for moving our connect time? (She’s a fellow mom, after all – she *knows* what this is like!) Okay, probably not.
So I put “ask so-and-so for a weekend coffee date” on my personal to-do list, and off I went – looking forward to a *much* happier Friday schedule.
Because now it suited *me*.
See, I want you to actually kick those blocks out of the way, make the change that you want to see happen, and truly go for what your intuition is telling you is the new direction for you in this season.
Whether that’s finding 2 more contractors for your business, having the “I need to not be cooking so much” conversation with your husband, or setting up a new chore schedule with the kids.
But I also know there’s a lot of brain resistance that crops up when you try to make a change of THIS magnitude in your working-at-home-with-kids-around life.
So if you’re trying to intentionally build *more* time with your kids into each workday, or see *where* you can carve out enough recharge time to actually make a *difference* each day, then mindset’s going to be your best friend. ‘Cause as soon as you give yourself *permission* to go there and have that in your life, the way to get all of that happens.
What do you need to give yourself permission around wanting, or having, or getting today?
