Look – it’s not healthy to have a “go-go-go” family life. To feel like you’re at the mercy of your schedule.
No. You’re in charge here.
You’re the mom. YOU put those things on your schedule. And if haste and hurry aren’t serving you (which, of course, they aren’t), then you get to move those things right off your calendar.
What’s coming up here? What are you immediately worried about as I say these words?
We’ve got to get past that before you’ll let yourself make a change.
Maybe an analogy will help. Suppose you’ve got a kid who was just diagnosed with celiac disease.
Go on a calendar diet to fix the stress.
Do you say, “Oh, but we’ll look so weird if we don’t eat bread anymore?” “Oh, I can’t handle what people will think?” “Oh, I don’t want to hear the whispers behind our back?”
No. You go right to work, paring down what’s in your kitchen, cleaning, resetting, and setting up a new menu for your family, all because that kid’s health and maybe even life is on the line. Who cares what the neighbors think – you’re worried about your kid’s future here.
Chronic stress and overwhelm is like that. You don’t think it is affecting you, but it is. And it’s hurting your kids, too.
And once more, the only way to fix it is to go on a diet. A calendar diet, if you will.
Delete all that stress. Delete all the worry. Quit all those “too many places at the same time” activities. Focus on setting up a new schedule that’s life-giving to all involved.
It’s the only way your chronic stress, fatigue, and overwhelm is going to get better.
Take my word for it. (Or don’t. That’s your choice.) But living on the hamster wheel *will* have its consequences, one day. That much you can be sure of.
