All right, it’s truth bomb time today, guys.
“Your reality will always follow your expectations.” That’s from Allie Casazza.
So if that’s true, and it is, what have you been telling yourself about your life, your home, or your kids? (Maybe even your husband?) What about your closets or kitchen?
What are you *expecting to be true* for you and your family?
‘Cause that’s what’s going to happen.
- Do you expect #momlife to be a mess all the time?
- Do you expect your husband to never help out?
- Do you expect your kids to go off and play in their rooms?
- Do you expect to be the only one feeding the dog?
- Do you expect to have messes underfoot everywhere?
- Do you expect sticky floors and crumby kitchens perpetually?
Then that’s what you’re getting. (And you are, aren’t you?)
What if… what if you used the power of this statement and flipped it around to work FOR yourself.
Your reality will always follow your expectations.
~Allie Casazza
What if you said, “My reality is now this. I’m going to expect….”
- Someone to help me with dishes after I cook
- Clean floors and walkways in the main living areas
- People taking bowls and spoons to the sink
- All kids 8 and up to be doing their own laundry
- The kids who want pets to take care of those pets
- The mud-trackers to sponge up the floor after themselves
- My aspiring bakers to wipe down counters after they’re done
- My husband to take the kitchen trash out after I ask him to
Do you see what a different life this is going to create? How much your underlying expectations shape and shift your everyday life?
That’s the power of this quote. I want you to use it to better your day-by-day existence in your family.
What do you really need to be different around there? Are you sick of hanging up dropped coats and putting away library books for them? Then change what you expect of them!
And of yourself – you’re no longer available for picking up after their things!
As long as you consider yourself the fall-back option, you’ll keep using it (doing the work) and half expecting it. You didn’t *really* think that this time, they’d hang up their coats after coming inside.
*That’s* what we need to work on to change things in your home.
So what would you love to change about your ordinary family life? What 5 things would make daily living so much easier on you?
Write them down, then add the self-expectation you’ve been having about each one of them. Consciously replace that with a *new* expectation that you’re going to have instead.
And see what happens to your days and weeks after that.
I’ll give you a hint – it’s going to be glorious.
