That girl in your mastermind, from last week’s call? You’re jealous of her – and not in a good way.
She kept dropping hints like “when my nanny gets here” and “my husband handles all the cooking” – but then she said “kid-free vacation.”
Your ears went straight up, you fell into dream-land, and you wanted to shout….
Girl, you have NO clue what my life is like – I would KILL for a kid-free vacation right about now!
(And I’d saint whoever was babysitting my kids.)
‘Cause right now, my day starts with a 6:15am alarm to get everyone out the door; morphs to “how many client calls can I take while the kids are out of the house”; and finishes with groans of “yuck, I’m not eating that” plus a messy kitchen.
Nanny? No cooking? No-kids relaxation?
Sure – in a galaxy far, far away.
And if THAT’S what it takes to “love my life” while balancing both hats as a mom and business owner, I might as well quit right now.
‘Cause I’m sitting over here at $12k months, still paying off my business debt (from all those masterminds they SAID you needed to invest in to make it to 6 figures), needing to fund our family vacation and buy a new vehicle soon (or pay some SUPER expensive maintenance on the OLD car if we don’t)…..
I don’t even have a social media manager yet! Just a VA. And she’s working hard enough for two, honestly.
So I have all KINDS of people I’d like to hire (for the company side of my business) before we could even GET to supporting me on the HOME side of my life.
How much money do I have to be making to afford a nanny and a kid-free vacation to Iceland – millions?!
Yeah, not realistic. So I might as well throw in the towel now and accept that this is as good as it’s ever going to get.
‘Cause out-of-touch goal posts are just as damaging as I-can’t-make-it attitudes.
But the only way you’ll have MORE time to spend with your kids, in this precious season before they hit high school – go to college – move out – is to BELIEVE that you get to take that time with them NOW, not in 2 years when your life is less full.
So we’ll work on exactly that brain block when you’re taking your 20 hours a week back in my program, because I can give you all the schedules and outsourcing lists you want – and they’ll never do a thing if you think using them will make your family structure crumble.
So we’ve got to rewire THAT first.
Believe me, I’ve done it the hard way – thinking “won’t my life be nice” if I can hire a meal prepper, and an errand runner, and someone else to do all the present buying and wrapping….
Which only leaves me envious and resentful in the NOW, not looking for all the ways I’m doing too much right in this season.
When what you SHOULD have told yourself after that mastermind call is “maybe I can hire a household manager when I hit $200k,” too.
And then looked over your family chore list to see if there’s anything else you can hand off to your 12-year-old (even if you had to pay him $3 per meal cooked to motivate him).
Because it’s how much YOU can outsource with your resources right now that counts.
Not the “someday maybe” pipe dream.
And getting each part of your WFH day a little lighter is what gives you the energy to keep pushing through on that $200k annual revenue dream.
You’re going to be able to see this through to the end – to climb that ladder as far as you want to even with the kids around – you just need permission to ditch your current barely-there strategy + get a new one.
DM me when you’re ready for the how.
